You’ve been putting the decision off for a while, hoping against hope, someone would come up with a cure for Coronavirus. That it will blow over. Heck that you’d wake up one day to discover it had all been a bad dream.
But… it’s time.
It’s time to postpone your wedding.
Well first off. You are in good company. Hollywood heavyweight Emma Stone and Katy Perry have both postponed their weddings. According to some very credible tabloid sources, once the US recommendation for a limit of 10 people on gatherings (which seems a long time ago now) both superstars have postponed their weddings.
Did they throw a tantrum? Did they cry? Did they throw their kitten heels at someone? Nope (at least not in public). Instead, like class acts they are, Katy and Emma made a decision, made a plan and made the best of it.
But back in the real world, it’s not so easy. If you are facing the prospect of postponing or even cancelling your wedding, how do you do it in a way that is classy, cool and doesn’t mean you lose a hell of a lot of money?
What is the etiquette here in Australia? How do you make sure you don’t lose your dream wedding?
We asked some of Australia’s most experienced wedding experts and put together their best tips to help you out.
Tip No 1 for Postponing your Wedding
Consult a professional wedding planner.
Even if your original plan for your wedding was to DIY, now might be a good idea to bring in a professional to help guide you through this tricky time.
We spoke with the team at The Other Bridesmaid, who specialise in curating bespoke weddings. Director, Ashleigh Derhy said that one of the best things about a professional wedding planner is their first-hand experience at problem-solving.
“We are used to working under pressure and making informed decisions in a short space of time,” she said. “That is routine for us.”
Ashleigh said that her clients value their ability to help couples make decisions that are very close to their heart, logically and carefully. Decisions that everyone will be content with once the emotions subside.
Sometimes there is just no substitute for an expert.
Here is Ashleigh’s other advice:
Postpone, don’t cancel – love doesn’t. Couples cancelling are doing so in fear and in haste. Carefully consider how you will feel 5 or 10 years from now. Hold onto your post engagement butterflies.
Communicate, with everyone; your family, your guests and your suppliers. Whether or not you have a new date set, let people know your intentions. Remember to remind them why you chose to invite them, mention that you want to hug and embrace them all on your wedding day. Keep spreading love and kindness.
Trust, in each other – for better or for worse is what you are committing to, embrace this challenge. Talk to each other about all of the feelings, the heartache and the disappointment – lean on one another.
Celebrate, your original wedding date may look VERY different but don’t let that day go by feeling overwhelmed or let down. Plan a date night, recite your wedding vows to one another, watch a rom-com with bubbly, get legally married (with intentions to celebrate later) – make it a day to remember, whatever that may mean for the two of you.
Accept, your wedding day is all about the two of you. It is your moment to indulge in all of the love and spoils – you would never want to share that feeling, especially not with a virus that could infect your family and loved ones. The pre-wedding anxiety belongs to you – remember that you will get to take that back once your new wedding date comes along. Accept that this is bigger than us all, you want to look back on your wedding day with only positive memories, not in the light of COVID-19.
Love, never stop loving because in love – we can face it all.
Tip No Two for Postponing your Wedding
Keep everyone in the loop with a “Wedding Postponement Announcement”
According to Eliza from Invitations by Eliza, there has been a definite trend of clients asking for postponement announcement that they can send out to their guests and let them know what is going on.
“Rather than making lots of phone calls or let the date change through a series of chinese whispers, many couples are making the postponement official with stationery that is themed to their original invitation design,” she says.
It doesn’t have to be serious” she says. “Why not have a little fun with it?”
For more information, you can check out her website here.
Tip No 3 for Postponing your Wedding
Use the extra time before your new wedding date to take your bridal waltz up a notch and nail it.
According to Kylie of Wedding Dance Diva , this is a great time to double down and satisfy that dream you’ve had of creating a stunning dance at your wedding.
“I just want to give everyone who has had to postpone their wedding a huge hug,” Kylie says. “It’s so tough and so disappointing. But if there is a silver lining it is this - there’s suddenly time to focus on your wedding dance and make it one of the highlights of your wedding.”
And even better, she says, you can do it with just the two of you and make it a total surprise.
Kylie is offering free 30-minute zoom classes for any couple who’d like to get some basic moves and discuss what kind of dance they’d like to have. You can find out more here.